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When you are grieving a loss or have experienced a traumatic event, feeling shock and anger is normal. The healing process starts when you are ready to begin. Adopting a few new habits can help you find balance. The goal is not to get over it, but to get through it.
Grief Can Be ________
Our response to loss is not just emotional. Grief can take on many forms and can change over time. Any of these responses are considered natural and normal for those who are grieving.
Family Time
Whether it's the one you were born with or the one you choose, family is important when you experience loss.
You may feel alone or misunderstood. With nowhere else to turn, you may think – well at least I have my family. Family is supposed to be there for each other, but trauma can make people act differently. Even if you’ve experienced the same thing, one person’s reactions may be very different from yours.
If your loved ones start to grieve differently than you, remember the significant roots of your connection. Try to give everyone enough space to express feelings, vent or just be together. Recognize and validate each person’s way of grieving together or alone. You'll find balance with time.
More info from National Child Traumatic Stress Network Resources.
Power in Parenting
How to help a child after a parent or caregiver dies
- Facing new fears. Let them know you are willing to listen to what’s on their mind.
- Taking care of you. The more you take care of yourself, the better equipped you are to take care of them.
- Hold onto the old and embrace the new. Structure and stability help kids feel secure.
- Keeping a routine will provide a safety net. Create comforting connections. Find new ways to honor your loved one with kids in mind.
- Build new traditions over time. Seek support. Gather support from friends, programs and professionals to step in while you find balance.
For more info, visit the National Child Traumatic Stress Network.
Coping With Trauma
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of yourself is an important way to begin healing and to be there for others.
Not Sure if You Need Support?
Read feedback from real people who called for help after a loss.
Resources
For a bigger list of mental health resources in Erie County and beyond, see our Mental Health Allies in Erie County page. We also recommend our publication Let's Talk About Mental Health.